Over the past few months, I’ve had several old and new friends text me news of the awesome new things in their lives. These are honestly my favorite texts to receive: all that really matters at the end of the day (and the end of days) is how we treat our fellow sentient beings. Celebrating the joys and successes in each others’ lives keeps us connected and there’s no greater happiness than rooting for our fellow humans.
For some reason, since I began my journey of full-time travel, people have been asking for my advice more than they used to. I joke about this a lot – I tell people I obviously can’t offer any meaningful advice on shit because I just “opted out” of all of it. Marriage? Peaced out of that. Career? Ditched that normal track. Relationships? Don’t believe in monogamy. Life? Wouldn’t really know yet!
I also have a somewhat cocked theory that I think people might be more willing to open up to me now because I quit my job to travel full-time, not in spite of it. The idea is that at first glance, you can tell I’m a bit “out there” (a freak, in the kindest terms) so people might be more likely to chat with me because they know I won’t judge.
Despite my jokes, though, I actually find myself so flattered and humbled when people ask for my advice or help on anything. Not because I actually know a lot of things (I don’t) but because it’s one of my favorite things in the world to be able to help another human – even if it’s just in the smallest way, like listening.
At some point, I realized that nothing would make me happier than building a life where I got to do nothing but help people. I took some post-bac classes in preparation to get a Masters in therapy (because I’m an idiot that loves/hates school). I realized, though, that I didn’t want to help people in that kind of a structured, bound, financially-driven environment. (This despite that I love and adore my own therapist).
But then, I wasn’t sure how to develop a life like that. And that’s where, I think, I currently stand. Although I think New Year’s Resolutions are largely stupid (because you should change your life in a positive way ANYTIME you want, not just at the start of a calendar year!), if there was anything I’d like to focus on more in the coming year, it would be helping others.
So I did what any entrepreneurially-oriented millennial would do: I took a course to get my Life Coaching certification. I know – it sounds hokey. Although I’m definitely a bit “new agey” myself, I was always kind of “whatever” about Life Coaching. It just sounded a little too nuts. I realized though, that I was wrong: that Life Coaching is just like being someone’s friend – it’s just slightly more structured. I also wanted to take the Life Coaching course for myself – just so I could learn how to better help people. And I hope and plan to continue my studies in that arena.
Here’s the thing: I don’t want to do it for a profit. In fact, when I hop on Facebook and I see those ads from people who are like “let me change your life….for $500 down and $500 a month” or “you can build the business of your dreams…after you pay me $399,” I find myself really disgusted. I know those people are just trying to make a living like all of us, but I feel like they are selling air and bridges. Gross. When I thought about “building a business” on Life Coaching, it just didn’t feel like something I wanted to do. I love helping others, but the exchange of money takes something away from that. It’s the rare among us that has excess money to spend on some help – but then, who among us doesn’t actually need the help and friendship?
So, I guess what I’m saying is, if you’ve ever wanted to know how to quit your job and travel the world, shoot me an email. Or if you want to talk about feeling trapped. Or how to start a blog. Or how Pinterest works. Or if you just want to talk – at all – about anything – shoot me an email.
It’s a weird, crappy world we live in that’s getting weirder and crappier by the day. If we’d all stop and just realize that we all want the same thing – to live a peaceful life filled with happiness and love – I think that would be a great first step in making the world a better place.
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